9 Things to Remember before choosing your life partner in 2022

1. Know yourself

The first step in finding your life partner is to understand yourself. This probably looks simple but it’s the hardest. Knowing yourself is not just about your wants and desires, but your flaws. Who better to know about your flaws than yourself?

All of us have different experiences in life that shaped us into who we are now. So, before you expect your partner to understand and accept you, you must fully understand your good and bad sides. When you accept that you’re not perfect, you grow and when you’re honest about it, your partner will support you through the journey. So, learn to love yourself and appreciate yourself for who you are. The way you treat yourself is essentially the way you treat others.

2. Find someone who understands your values

It is okay if your views on life and the future are polarized, but if they do not understand where you come from or the values you uphold, it’s a strict no-no. There are always certain things that can be deal-breakers and cannot be compromised, identify them and make sure your partner is on the same page as you.

For instance, if you prioritize experiences over materialism, finding someone similar would make life easier and happier. From talking about simple things like where and how to make a living to how you want to raise your children, make sure you share similar thoughts and have those difficult but important conversations.

3. Be Honest and Be You

You need to be proudly you, full of confidence, and honesty with your partner. From talking about your past relationships and family history to expectations and preferences, you need to be honest about them and stand on them upfront. Do not surprise your partner halfway into the relationship with new expectations.

Often in a new relationship, we find ourselves trying to get into their good books by pretending to be someone they would like to see again. But remember, you cannot keep up this act forever. Though it is sweet that you are taking an effort to impress your partner, make sure it does not deflect from your character.

Just as you are honest about your likes, make sure to create a space for your partner to share the same. You don’t want it to end up one-sided.

4. Find Someone who Respects you

Look for someone who respects you and does not judge you. You will want to live with someone who adores and supports you in every endeavor. Your partner must be someone you regard highly. Mutual respect and understanding is the key to a blooming relationship.

You need to make sure that your partner respects your family and your world, besides you. If they cannot respect your past, they cannot respect your future.

5. Do not be misdirected by societal expectations

Sometimes, we see our friends on Social Media, posting amazing pictures and stories of their partners and we envy them and probably even want the same for us. But, do a reality check if that is really what you want. Most of the time what you see on screen isn’t what it really is. You need to set up your own priorities and boundaries, and not what society wants you to do.

Society around you might try to impose its expectations on you – when you should marry, when to buy a house, how many kids to have and it doesn’t stop. Do not fret. Remember that you are unique and special in your own way. You do not have to live someone else’s life.

6. Do not make hasty decisions

We know how first impressions last a lifetime. But, you got to note that they are not the perfect impersonation of that person. Most probably for the first few meetings, you would be seeing the nice and cordial side of a person and not their deepest insecurities or vulnerabilities. So, before you fall for a person based on their outer demeanor, take a step back and think if you know this person fully. When you are choosing a life partner, you are choosing to live with all their weaknesses too, so be sure you are aware of them.

7. Find someone easy to talk to

Communication is the key to any great relationship. You need to accept that there is no relationship without a difference of opinion. So, having a person who is easy to talk to will take you a long way. It is important that you create a space to talk openly about your expectations and worries.

8. Get Ready to invest your time and effort

Whether it is before you commit or after, you should put in the effort and time to know about your partner. Even if you have a busy lifestyle, it is the little things that keep the relationship afloat. It could be simple things like asking if they’re okay, having meals together, taking time to appreciate their new outfit, or checking up with them often.

You don’t have to spend hours with your partner, but just take five minutes out of your busy schedule to remember and check up on them, or spend time with them on the weekends cozying up with a movie or doing some fun activities together. There is never an end to working on your relationship, so keep reminding your partner that you’re there for them, no matter what.

9. Be Patient

You need to understand that life isn’t going to be easy. Even if the person you choose ticks off all the boxes in your checklist, you might discover something unexpected that was not on your priority earlier throwing you off. You need to remember that nobody is perfect and you don’t have to like everything in a person. It’s okay to have differences and arguments, but the trick is to go past that and accept each other for the diversity. Isn’t it so common for opposites to attract? Maybe you’d learn something new from your polar partner. So, be patient and don’t give up quickly because the effort is definitely worth it.

I’m sure you’ve heard of most of these before but often we get carried away in love. Falling in love with the right person is only the beginning of the dream, but if you want the dream to persist, you have to work on it and stay in love. I hope you find your true love. And while you do that, give this post a like and comment so we could get back to you with more such relatable content.